This is a topic I have actively avoided speaking about since it became a concern, largely because the well was so poisoned that to engage with it stood to do nothing but make everyone’s lives worse. However, it has been quite some time since the last notice of any drama coming from the person propagating this, who will, for the sake of argument, remain nameless. It now feels safe to mention, because, really?
This individual had harassed my girlfriend and myself for some time. At one point, they made fake Instagram accounts to continue to stalk us. We blocked several accounts at first, but more were made. We decided to simply monitor their activity instead. They attempted to hide the fact they were watching, but it did not take long to find what they were doing and find a way to monitor it. They didn’t know we could see until recently when they were told to fuck off. There was not a single Instagram story they did not check for a period of roughly 6 months, on my girlfriend’s account or mine. Just prior to the start of this stalking, they even sent my girlfriend some very concerning messages from one of their alt accounts. As if they could not find a way to be more creepy, they started combining the first per of her name and the last part of mine when making the accounts. Dateline shit, honestly, also hilarious.
This person then took to twisting truths so far from reality that they might as well have been entirely fabricated and, after awhile, straight up lying. What is interesting is that past a certain point they were joined, unbeknownst to them, by someone else from the other side of things. However, we still had tracking regarding the extent to which they were stalking us. It was much akin to watching two squirrels fight over a nonexistent nut. They had tried to cause problems in the past more directly, but after that didn’t work they took to just trying to poison the well more.
During this time, I had incidentally been going to therapy. This provided a lot of benefits. I learned much better control over my involvement. In the past, I had a hard time keeping my mouth shut when it comes to these things. I have learned, however, the value of just not talking. Their refusal to stop beating a long dead horse in favor of ongoing toxicity demonstrated to others and myself why they are no longer involved in Holly and I’s life. I needed to say nothing.
I can’t say I am surprised, to be honest. The writing for this kind of behavior was on the wall for some time. Holly knew it would happen, and told me so from the start. Once again, it just makes it more clear why the fact this person is no longer involved is a huge relief. In addition to fixing some of my own tendencies therapy, growth, and time have led me to just accept that this is the way this person is. Their behavior no longer surprises myself or my girlfriend. It is actually endlessly entertaining how accurately Holly was able to predict the next way they would try something. She would say that she knows exactly what they will do, say what it was. A few days to a few weeks later, it would happen. Like clockwork, every single time. We joked about that quite a lot.
I’ve washed my hands of this. As has Holly. But it does feel good to finally after all this time put something out there.